From the moment you announce a pregnancy, and sometimes even earlier, you’ll be bombarded with well-meaning but largely unsolicited advice from every parent you know. Family members, friends, colleagues and acquaintances will all be eager to share their parenting wisdom; here are ten of the things you’re most likely to hear.
- Sleep While You Can – This is, hands down, the most popular advice you’ll get from other moms. They’ll urge you to get all the sleep you can before your baby arrives, because it will be so hard to come by later. Actually, unless your medical professional advises that you take it easy, it’s better to be active during pregnancy.
- Make Noise During Nap Time – Many parents swear by running the vacuum cleaner in a sleeping baby’s room, or introducing other sources of noise in order to help them become heavier sleepers.
- Let Them Cry – You’ll be told, often by older parents, that it’s best to let a baby “cry themselves out” at night, rather than to comfort them. Proponents of this method claim that it helps an infant learn to comfort themselves and sleep more soundly at an early age.
- You Have to Breastfeed – Few new-mom subjects spark as much intense debate as the issue of breastfeeding. Devotees to natural feeding will list the health benefits, but can also be militant about the issue and can become condescending if they discover that you don’t plan to breastfeed.
- You Don’t Have to Breastfeed – Parents who chose to bottle-feed their infants are likely to advise that breastfeeding isn’t the absolute necessity that natural feeders claim, often holding their own healthy children up as an example.
- Umbilical Cord Should Be Cleaned With Alcohol at Every Diaper Change – Perhaps due to the drying nature of alcohol and a fear of bacteria, many parents tout the benefits of swabbing Baby’s umbilical stump with alcohol at each diaper change. This can actually slow the healing process, according the New York Community Hospital.
- Crib Bumpers Are a Safety Feature – While a padded crib bumper might soften the blow of a slight bump, they’re much more likely to pose a strangulation and suffocation risk. Some parents insist that they’re necessary, despite the inherent danger.
- Rice Cereal Helps Baby Sleep – One of the most popular bits of infant care advice claims that adding a bit of rice cereal to breast milk or formula will help your baby sleep through the night. In fact, a Cleveland Clinic study involving over one hundred babies found no correlation between supplementing with rice cereal and longer periods of sleep. Also, tongue movements typically aren’t developed enough for swallowing solids in the first four to six months.
- Newborns Need Stimulation – Shaking a noisy, brightly-colored rattle in the face of a newborn is more likely to startle and overwhelm them than stimulate. In the earliest days of life, babies are bombarded with more than enough unfamiliar external stimuli; save the rattles until they’re a few months old.
- Holding an Infant Too Much Will Spoil Them – Notoriously the advice of hard-nosed older parents, this tidbit of wisdom has been passed to new mothers for generations. For fear of “spoiling” a newborn, many will advise that you refrain from holding them as much as possible; studies have shown that this lack of affection may actually lead to lower self-esteem and confidence later in life.
