10 Big Surprises for New Parents Around the Birth

If you’re expecting, hopefully you and your spouse are taking classes to prepare for the big event. Here are some tips to help you on this remarkable journey. Take them to heart and your new baby’s arrival will go a lot smoother.

  1. It takes a lot of things to take care of a new-born.  I remember thinking it was kind of people to give us a baby shower, but did not understand the VALUE of the shower until I got ready to go to the hospital. The hospital gave us a list of things we would need and I was amazed! So much for one little guy!
  2. You don’t have to go to a hospital. There are options to giving birth in a hospital. Many           people choose to use a mid-wife at home. The advantages of this are many. For one thing, you don’t have to worry about leaving other children behind. You will have the sense of safety one only gets in their home and the newborn will be brought into an environment which will not have to change in a few days.
  3. Contractions don’t necessarily mean the baby is on its way. Wow, what a disappointment! Most new mothers go through a series of false labor. This means you will feel strong contractions, even at a regular rate without being true labor.  If you are going for regular checkups, your doctor should be able to tell you when there are signs that you can expect to go into labor. Talk to him/her about the signs of real labor vs. false labor. This will save you unnecessary trips to the hospital  (and the embarrassment.)
  4. Consider which relatives will be involved. You won’t believe how emotional of an issue this can be. Talk with everyone who would be considered close relatives and come to a conclusion which would work best for you. DO NOT feel compelled to let people in the delivery room you are not comfortable with.
  5. You really can’t MAKE the baby come. You will hear lots of myths on how to bring labor on when you can’t stand it anymore. The truth is, that baby is going to come when he/she is ready. You can induce, but that can take hours and hours and unless the baby is in danger, it will be safer to wait for natural processes to take place. Mopping the floor, taking a walk etc May help the process, but ideally it is best to wait.
  6. Your water will probably break. With all the new products, it might be wise to start wearing adult diapers toward the last two weeks of your term. More than likely, your first sure sign that the baby is ready is that your water will break. There’s no way of knowing when it will happen, all you can do is prepare.
  7. Breast feeding may be natural, but not necessarily easy. Many mothers go through the great frustration of not being able to breast feel immediately. There can be problems with your milk not coming down or the baby just isn’t ready to latch on. Be patient. There’s nothing wrong with you or the baby. Ask your nurse to help coach your little one and for methods on encouraging milk production. Talk about this before the birth – options to use a bottle are not the end of the world.
  8. What a mess! Okay, so now you’ve brought your little bundle home. It’s so easy to have a vision of the ideal baby. You have no idea how MESSY this little can be. After the first few diapers with little messes, he/she should be having a bowel movement 3 or 4 times a day. Make sure you have lots of diapers and wipes. It’s always good to have someone else on standby in case you reach your limit.
  9. Make him stop crying! One of the biggest reasons for infant abuse is the fact that they won’t stop crying. Make sure you’ve discussed this with your doctor or nurse for healthy options in dealing with a crying baby. Crying for hours is NOT natural. If the crying persist, your baby might be allergic to your milk or something you’re eating or there could be something else going on. Contact your doctor is the crying persist.
  10. Finally, you should know that you are going to be thoroughly exhausted! Going through the birth process and the return home is just the beginning of this very tiring experience. Make sure you have someone who can relieve you so you can get some sleep and take every measure to be at your best.

There you have it. You can do this! Women have been for thousands of years. Believe in your own instinct and take advantage of the love of those around you! Happy birthing!